I specialize in helping Asian American/immigrant women heal from the deep root cause of their anxiety, guilt, and shame that stem from their complex trauma (C-PTSD) in order to be able to live a life more connected and confident in their body and mind. Especially if you have tried therapy before but nothing has helped you enough to heal from your deeper emotional pain, and you are very tired of the endless pain, I hear your pain, and I am glad you are here. I would love to help you truly heal from your unbearable pain that you suffered alone for a very long time.
As a child of Asian immigrants or an Asian immigrant yourself in the US, you may have felt so alone with your emotional pain that nobody really understands and accept for who you truly are. You feel guilty to prioritize your own feelings over someone else’s expectations of you or to maintain a healthy boundary with people. You often wish that your feelings were understood more but you suppress your feelings, and you realize you are angry, resentful, and exhausted to live that way any more. You see your life as either a success or failure and you never feel good enough even if you have achieved so much. It is emotionally difficult for you to pursue what you feel passionate about since you are afraid that it would not meet your family’s expectations. Your critical voice constantly makes you feel so guilty and ashamed and you feel anxious when you try to choose your own compassionate voice towards yourself.
When the root cause of your emotional pain or your trauma is not effectively processed and healed, you may experience it as severe anxiety, depression or PTSD/C-PTSD. In the past, you may have tried some therapy to reduce anxious feelings and depressive mood, however, you notice there is something still unresolved in your body and experience the same patterns of emotions over and over again. You may even start thinking there is something wrong with you and blaming yourself that you do not know how to regulate your emotional pains, but it is very difficult to do it and it makes sense since nobody taught you how to manage your feelings in healthy ways when you grew up. You would like to feel better so you work harder but then it does not help you feel better but it makes you more anxious, angry, depressed and you may start believing that healing from your old pain is not possible and that you just need to live with the pain while wishing you had had more emotional support and acceptance.
However, you may be here because a part of you is still desperately looking for help and strongly believing healing could happen if you receive the right help you always wanted. And I would love to help you get there. In my therapy, together with you, I would like to passionately and gently nurture your resilient true self so that you feel supported by your own strengths that helped you survive the long journey until now. And in order for you to be able to nurture your resilient true self, we will listen to your deep pain and what it really says about your painful experiences without judgment but support. In the journey to your healing, I will not only listen to your pain with genuine compassion but also I will gently and safely guide you to explore where the pain originates, and find what your pain needs in order for you to heal. The process will also involve nurturing more self-compassionate voice, reducing critical voice and learning new adaptive emotional patterns and action patterns that feel “good” and “right” in your mind and body. When we repeat this process enough times together, it will help change how your brain reacts to certain triggers in healthy ways and to finally heal from your very old pain.
If any of those resonates with you and you are ready to heal from the root cause of your emotional pain, I would love to help you get there. Make a free 15-minute consultation appointment here today. You do not have to suffer alone any more. You deserve to live a life that you truly want with more connections, confidence, and trust with yourself and others.